Flirting Goal #1: Shine the spotlight on your flirting interest, not yourself.
You want the other person to feel special, cared about, important and valued. Don’t do all of the talking or try and impress. Instead focus on him and let him shine. (this also MINIMIZES DISAPPOINTMENT if he doesn’t reciprocate, since your GOAL WAS TO SIMPLY MAKE SOMEONE ELSE FEEL SPECIAL).
Flirting Goal #2: Flirt for fun, not to get a boyfriend!
Do not get caught up in thinking about the future. YOU MUST STAY IN THE MOMENT. The minute you focus on the future, anxiety levels increase and you begin to listen less and talk more (which lowers your chance of getting a date).
Flirting Goal #3:Make flirting second nature.
Pay attention to the comfort level and interest of your flirting partner to guide your game. If you get the go-ahead, continue playing. If you try too hard and the ball is never in your court, pick up your racket and play with someone else.
The #1 ingredient for flirting is: CONFIDENCE.
Amazing flirts believe they are worth getting to know. They have little fear about being rejected.
Confident behaviors:
Good posture-don’t slouch, sit up and stand up straight.
Eye contact-make good eye contact whenever you are talking with someone.
Genuine smile- smile as often as you can.
Good listener- listen as attentively as possible to everyone who talks to you.
Enthusiasm-show authentic enthusiasm whenever possible.
Open body language- arms open, relaxed stance
Poise, Charm, Warmth- demonstrate sincere interest, politeness, and kindness to all those around you.
